Most things offer a docker image, so maybe learn how to work with those.
"Just docker run" is not always the answer
Look at Radarr:
https://radarr.video/#downloads-v3-docker
It's nice that they give tipps about pitfalls, but there are more than this and a step by step tutorial would also be good.
Often times you have to google and search 10 reddit posts. Thinks like digitaloceans tutorial work best.
Nextcloud was 5 minutes (or 15 if one includes setting up ssh key in the web frontend for my account). WordPress was 3 minutes, Matomo also 5 including configuration.
I know that I am using a central service and am not self hosting. But for > 13 years this setup "just works".
I had a masquerading server at home once (back in the early 2000s) and updating, securing and just maintaining it was a hassle.
So to me the current setup is stable, mostly secure (and more secure than I could make it) and balances my needs for control and stability and ease of use quite well.