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Not entirely. The explanation is very very often taken as start of negotiation and an invitation to pressure/question you.

Saying that as someone who was taught to explain everything as kid and found out in real life that I have to unlearn that. Say no, maybe bonus "cant" but don't say reasons unless you really have to.

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This sounds like the people you work with have boundary issues, this may warrant being addressed first.

Right now, no, they are actually fine. I know you dont know them, but I feel the need to defend them.

The above is a more of lifelong lesson that seems to serve mi well (still).

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