You may have a point, unless this insinuated physical damage from altOS on Apple Silicon never appears.
> Apple-sanctioned alternative operating systems such as VMware ESXi have also caused problems in the past and should not be used at all anymore
VMWare currently supports running their bare metal hypervisor on (at least) Intel Mac hardware (except for Mac Pro due to COVID straining VMWare development, and not because ESXi causes Mac Pros to detonate), but does not consider any Mac with VMWare an enterprise-grade setup.
> because Apple does not seem to play well with others on that level (by releasing uncoordinated firmware updates).
Please accept some humble advice: since there are three and only three reasons to update anything: bugfixes, pressing security issues and the last a need for new features, generally, one should never update firmware, and this is especially true the moment the update appears. In the first case, unless the bug prevents booting, it couldn't be less important, secondly, worrying about firmware security issues is silly, because if you can't physically prevent access to the computer, it's pwned anyway no matter how secure the firmware is. And in the last case, if you have a functioning system in production, then it doesn't need new features, get out of here with needing new features on production. The notion is absurd on it's face.