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Don’t discount the part of the equation that the WFH crowd is very vocal (as well as preachy). So much as suggesting you miss going to the office or seeing coworkers in person is met with an incredible amount of vitriol.

And I don’t mean suggesting being in the office is better. I mean expressing a personal opinion on the matter makes people defensive and hostile.

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Correct. It’s basically the extrovert vs introvert thing as well as many other dynamics online.

You say you enjoy talking to others and would like to see people more often. Introverts will chime in and say, “but that’s not everyone! Not all of us enjoy idle chitchat! Oppressor!!” Yet - you never said you wanted to force anyone who wasn’t into that into that situation… And never implied it either.

It’s weird reactionary shit that adds nothing to the conversation. Expressing a personal opinion must be met with an equal or more severe personal opinion of the opposite. No circle jerking allowed anywhere!

I’m sure someone will chime in now that this isn’t actually how things work so that we can prevent any circle jerk.

I've found that the in-office crowd is the vocal, preachy group, always trying to convince people who are happier than ever that they are wrong. The in-office crowd are the ones trying to get everyone back to their way, rather than finding a new compromise.

> So much as suggesting you miss going to the office or seeing coworkers in person is met with an incredible amount of vitriol.

This might be because some of those of us who want WFH perceive this as, in practice, carrying the (unintentional) implicit threat of forcing us into physically mingling with the crowds again. After all, you can't see us in person without us seeing you in person, and on the way to that in-person meeting we're seeing a substantial part of the city's population in person.

is it? people who wish to remain at home are most likely more introverted than the opposite.

It's not clear to me there is a correlation. Introverted so doesn't have many friends. At work, people who are into the same thing (coding here on HN) are like minded people that an introvert can get some socialization from. Where as an extrovert has a million friends and zoom calls them one after another, filling their socialization quota.

I've spoken a bit on HN about this in the past. I would consider myself an introvert, but one that needs some sort of social interaction less I go crazy.

If you are interested, I wrote a lengthy bit more here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=28831828&p=2#28836750

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