The concern is that, if an attacker (such as a government) compromises Tailscale, or Tailscale wants, they could probe your applications. It would be like your SSH being exposed to internet.
These products bypass firewalls, which is a good thing if they are secure, and a terrible thing if they are not.
There have been cases where the coordination servers have been (sometimes silently) compromised; see stories about encrypted phones. Users thought they were secure.
And unfortunately small companies may not have sufficient resources to secure their infrastructure against more resourceful adversaries.
That’s why it’s better to pay, so that the startups have funds to improve the product.
Isn't the main alternative also an ACL, just in the form of a more course grained firewall? The idea of these networks AIUI is that some of the existing infra, such as firewalls and even application level encryption, are replaced by something that is subjectively easier to administer and monitor. Not saying it is better, just that's it's different. And if it's different, then it makes sense that the attack surface is different too.
This is the direction I'd like to see networking go in general. Everything can have a public IP, but applications won't talk to anything that's unauthenticated. No more VPCs, VPNs, "kubectl port-forward", jumpboxes, etc. In practice, this is a colossal pain that nobody really knows how to do right. It requires rewriting all existing software, a secure way of issuing certificates (ideally not controlled by the cloud provider that runs your applications), and it can very easily fail open.
(I do mTLS for my personal projects, but my cloud provider can easily issue themselves a trusted cert and use that to poke around if they really wanted to. They own the machines that my CA runs on, so they are the root of trust. At some point, what you end up with is something that feels correct, but is in practice the same thing as just trusting Tailscale. The first 99% of security is making sure some rando on the Internet can't download your HR database and secret plans for world domination. The remaining 99% of security is making sure the NSA can't do that. Maybe you're OK with the NSA mucking about with your internal network, and in that case, you can save yourself a lot of trouble.)