I'm married to a Ukrainian (half of whose family has fled to Poland, the other half who is stuck in Kyiv due to the conscription laws), so the war has impacted us quite a bit and I wish it to be over soon.
With that said, I've been informed that before this conflict started, there was nothing offensive about this linguistic difference (between saying "Ukraine" vs. "the Ukraine" in Russian). Similar to how British and U.S. English has subtle differences (in spelling or idioms), but one nationality hearing the other isn't offended by one practice or the other.
Am I wrong? I'm curious what actual Ukrainians think about this. Was saying "the Ukraine" actually offensive to you, before this whole conflict started? (If so, I'll shut right the hell up.)