> Despite all of the incel talk, women aren't out there seeking the richest and handsomest men. They're looking for somebody to connect with, and feel safe with.
While nice in thought - the issue is that there's no way to connect this way on dating apps. You're on a dating app - you get 3s tops to make an impression. If someone finds you physically attractive then they'll continue to look at your profile and see if they find anything more physically attractive or emotionally attractive.
But this is essentially 4-5 photos and maybe 50 words you have to write for a very general audience to catch their attention. Dating apps are more about how well you can market what you have (or market what you don't have - I guess - it doesn't really matter. You just need to hook someone).
The real world is different. People will give you at least a few more seconds before moving on and being there in physical person is different than on an app. People actually exist as physical manifestations instead of as digital assets. This changes the way people interact.
Point of the parent was that online dating is extremely "economy" based and has a lot of market principles behind it. For the most part - women do go after the most desirable. Men do the same but are more liberal with their approach because they have to. Whereas women don't because they're less than a quarter of the online dating populace and thus are highly desired. You cannot deny the "economics" there.