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What? A coworker did these things? Saying that information is not clear, whatever you try? How 'bout if your project manager behaves like this. Because of a combination of being incompetent and trying to cover that up by shifting blame. Well that's the situation I'm currently in right now and it is very stressful, it feels there's nowhere out, apart from updating your LinkedIn profile...

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I was in this exact situation together with many colleagues. Just leave. It sucks that you have to leave what you've invested, but it's a fallacy to think that it will get better. The project manager needs to be punished and you need to find a better job.

Take it slowly and rationally though. Do not give them any hint that you are leaving at all and start a slow powerful search for your next adventure. My number one tip? Make sure you get a good manager which is both good to you as well as in control of their immediate environment meaning so that they make sure you can keep your sanity as well.

Indeed you are right! A month ago or so I had a one on one talk with him and explained that i felt targeted by him. I also gave him some examples of why I felt like that. He acted as if he had no idea, and said I was mistaken and gave some explanation that did not fully convince me. But it helped for a while though... he was more friendly up until a few weeks ago when things got rough. People's true nature doesn't change. I'm now convinced he is not to be trusted and does not have the courage to stand up for his people towards higher management, who seem to be using him as a puppet. I have to thank you for your tips! Thing is, you might start out with a good boss but positions can change quickly within a company. Luckily the job market is on our side. At least all the hard work resulted in new knowledge and skills.

Get out while you can!

Thanks! I will be dusting off my resume this evening and pimp it to the latest status. It is so sad, since I get along with most coworkers really well, and enjoy working with them. They even vouched for me but management seems not to understand the situation.

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