Are smartphones serving as adult pacifiers?
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When upgrading to a new device, even though all the data is copied over and the Home Screen looks identical, I still briefly feel a bit of empathy(?) for the old device as I’m packing it up getting ready to sell it. It’s been in my pocket or at my side pretty much 24x7 for the past 2-3 years, and if nothing else I feel a bit mindful and thankful for its service.
There’s definitely a level of attachment there, even if it doesn’t meet some clinical definition of “attachment object”.
Here’s one study where 5 of 18 kids decide to keep a “new” duplicate in favor of the original item. http://minddevlab.yale.edu/sites/default/files/files/Childre...
Glibness aside, I think sure, for some people all of the time, and for all people some of the time, a phone is just a pacifier. But it's also our window into basically the entire wealth of human knowledge, indexed better than it has ever been in all of history. So I really think that's something worth not selling so short.
If you're consuming all of your coverage through reddit, I think you're conflating one side's propaganda with "knowledge". It (the internet) used to be a window into a wealth of human knowledge, but at the current state of things it is merely another vector to help you mainline <insert large company's> propaganda engine and, for most that don't run ad blockers, stuff you full of advertisements.
Ten, maybe 15 years ago your statement would have been more true, but the internet has become progressively smaller and the content more curated by big money interests than any time in the past.
The internet sucks now, basically.
Follow links, not search engines. Use HN, or link aggregators to find sites interesting to you.
I've founf goodwebsites.org to have some interesting reads - but that is only curated by page quality, not content. Some sites linked there have very innacurate content much like the rest of the internet.
Also, https://1mb.club/ has a list of sites, many of which are interesting.
It's how it goes. Any system that can be gamed will be - it's just a matter of time. I do have a short list of search engines at https://a-shared-404.com/other-stuff/ , some of those may help on occasion as well.
This + non-front Reddit subs like /r/PoliticalDiscussion + Hacker News gives me as much of a 360 degree sphere of coverage as I can come up with that doesn’t take hours to curate and vet.
That said, yes, the Internet is an ad-optimized heap of disinformation, misinformation, and FUD, generally speaking.
(I found /r/politicaldiscussion and /r/neutralpolitics by searching for “unbiased political subreddits site:reddit.com” on Google. I always recommend newcomers to Reddit to unsubscribe from all of the default subreddits (as they are heavily manipulated) and use Google to find subs relevant to their interests.)
It took a ton of human labor (literal billions of human-hours) to get as much on as we have now. Unfortunately, that, of course, means for any given topic, the signal-noise ratio suffers (consider, in one's own mind, how much knowledge is useful and how much is pop music lyrics).
Yes, true, but the article discusses how physical presence of the device itself reassures its owner, and conversely how upsetting it can be for the owner to be without their device. Part of that reassurance may come from, as you say, having a window into the entire wealth of human knowledge, or from having a connection to friends and family, etc.
On a personal observation: in the beginning I frequently forgot my phone. Now it is as standard to me as a wallet or keys. I can subconsciously feel its weight in my pocket.
My phone and wedding ring are the only items that give me the "something is missing" spidey sense.
Because I can access the entire wealth of human knowledge just fine by sitting down with my laptop, avoiding some of the issues with having a smartphone on me at all times. I'm currently listening to Digital Minimalism (audiobook on my smartphone, haha) and Cal Newport makes the case that most things should wait until you can get home and use your laptop.
Has anyone seen this trend on YT recently? The videos are much shorter and much more click-baity. I do worry that it's pushing our attentions down down to the lowest common denominator, which seems to be 30-60 seconds.
I don't know that google even actually fixed it, i think the idea that it could be gamed sort of fixed it by deluge of #shorts videos, this diluting the pool so that your video was less likely to appear at random.
This is simplified a bit; but the point is, once upon a 2008ish, youtube decided that monetization should be harder, and this was around the time that fully monetized videos were required to be 10 minutes long. This was a paradigm shift, considering that in the old days there were length limits to individual videos imposed on youtube (and google videos), first being quite short (possibly even 10 minutes) and eventually ran out to 30 minutes, and now where i'm unsure if there's even a 'real' limit on video length. I know there are some 20+ hour videos on youtube.
So in order to appease advertisers, youtube made it so content producers had to fill their time with fluff, which is why there was an adage that still holds true - on a computer, when a youtube video starts, press "3" to skip the irrelevant stuff (hey guys its... hit the like and...).
Tiktok and instagram have brought back the drive-by short videos, youtube attempted to capitalize on the short video craze (originally vine et al started the trend, but further back even ytmnd and .webm did it as well), and now it's a race to the bottom. I fully expect the most popular video by view count and impact to be less than 8 seconds long in 2022.
So instead of allowing ourselves to be railroaded by someone's unfortunately one-sided choice of descriptors, maybe we should ask:
- Pacifier _and also_ therapeutic assistant?
- Adult _and also_ continually developing human?
Otherwise, playing one side of the dichotomy is by its nature demonstrating something far worse than a smart phone, which itself is a practical ocean of different engagement levels, options, and tools. It's demonstrating a single engagement level, a single option, a single way of using a tool.
Two parents can give a child their full attention, but infants can be fickle, picky creatures. I've been stuck in quite a few situations where the pacifier got driven off in Mom's car and the backup isn't in my bag - stranded away from supply lines without the required materiel. My son would only pull on his thumb or mine for a couple seconds before wailing...and, yes, trying again, but it was a pretty short attempt and a high duty cycle on the crying.
You do parents a disservice and assume the worst, probably based on a few narcissistic jerks, sure, but if there was anything I or many other parents could do for their kids we would do it. If I could have made my son comfortable in those situations I would have.
Sometimes they don't want Mom and they don't want Dad, they don't have to poop and they don't want to sleep, they don't want to play, they don't want to eat, they don't want to bounce, they don't want to sing....they want their pacifier. Nothing else will do. Not even Grandma...
I put my smartphone in airplane mode, or turn it off, when it's time to sleep.
They're ways of distributing information and how you use them is entirely up to you. I'm sure some people are. Some aren't. It has very little to do with mobile computers with wireless modems.
I got into computers when I was in early elementary school, and that began my track toward exploration and software development. There's no doubt that my mom's worries of me being addicted to the computer were absolutely true - entire summers were spent on the computer.
What's different about computer addiction and smartphone addiction is that computer usage is more limited in where you can do it. My computer-addicted young self would not have been able to whip out a desktop computer at a restaurant, barbershop, or waiting in line to pick up an order. But with smartphones essentially being "pocket computers", people can use them anywhere - even driving.
I do believe in personal choice, so I don't want to be heavy handed, but I imagine our society will need to grapple with this problem. I see couples on dates with each other in restaurants, both on their phones nearly the entire time scrolling through endless feeds. I watch sports events where any small break in play people need to pull out their phones. There is no presence anymore, and public space (along with suburbanization) has rapidly eroded over the past 10-15 years since smartphones were invented. Now commercials for phones/5G normalize the idea that you should be able to download/stream a movie on your phone walking down a sidewalk.
There's a balance that needs to be struck here, and it's going to be difficult to reach because we're still relatively in the infancy of these fancy electronic gadgets. Particularly in the US where individualism and personal choice is so deeply part of our culture, it will be difficult to restore the public space so that we can come to expect if you go out in public, people are actually... present and there. But somehow we eventually came to the same conclusion with banning smoking in restaurants et. al.
The 1990s solution was just to really amplify the public space. Things like the rainforest cafe were very normal aesthetically. We essentially used clickbait in real life.
Smartphones are one half of it. The other half is we have kind of deprecated public spaces as an idea. We hardly even have them besides restaurants!
Even virtually, we don't have anything like true community forms to the degree we used to. Single player epics are a major game genre. Watching netflix is the new pastime, etc. Most of our big cultural things are fairly private now.
We even talk about privacy probably more than any other technical topic, and that is very new. Nobody but pirates would have known what a VPN was till know, and it was common to not care what the NSA knows about you(Ok, a lot of us like me are still like that).
And at the same time, everything has become about sex more than ever before, and even that seems to be more of a private thing than a public Hollywood drama spectacle.
The concept of a "dream job" is widely mocked. Everything seems to be seen as just some infrastructure to support private life.
What do you... do in public exactly? We are told every day it's just place you go to get ready to be at home.
Banning phones would just lead to everyone staring at a wall instead of a phone, until we actually restablish the public sphere as a real thing.
We hand off these novelties to future generations without any real bearing, all the organizations, traditions, adaptations, and more or less say "You figure it out." And the craziest thing is just the fucking rapidity of it all. Think of life in the 1920's. People have lived that long, 100 years. Imagine the cognitive whiplash watching highways and motor vehicles emerging, radio, television, the nuclear bomb, commercial airliners and transcontinental travel being trivialized, mass warfare, helicopters, wireless communication, calculators, computers, internet and the list goes on - every alteration of the nuanced fiber weave of the social fabric that all those techniques have shorn, altered or displaced.
We have no real reference point in the here and now that can comprehensively assist us in a meaningful convergence, we've sort of been shot into a dark vacuum entirely unconscious of the consequences with the pretense that it's what we desire. But I think we're quickly coming to find, at least those conscious of the implications, is that what we desire isn't necessarily good for us.
But the thing is, I don't think it's probable that we could really retard the unraveling of a technology. If it wasn't Ford it would've been someone else. I don't think it's possible to limit human curiosity, if not culture A, then culture B will ask the questions.
Perhaps if cities and communities were pleasant places to walk and bicycle this could change. In that case, the traveling is a positive addition and makes the trip enjoyable rather than a negative cost.
We used to use the coffee house/bar in my town as the public house, where news was spread and discussions took place. The demise of such places has been very unfortunate and our interaction is now much poorer in both quantity and quality. Facebook/Twitter/Reddit are poor replacements, although I do like my town's subreddit.
I really don't know how we are going to reestablish public places again but I hope it happens. I would love to see something like the cafeterias in Mexico City where people go to have coffee, eat, talk, play games, and catch up with each other.
memory is a skill. Paper is useful.
If I want to remember something I write it down, or I train the memory. The phone is so ephemeral, just a vague cloud without landmarks or permanence-- how would I find the information again after I put it in my phone?
Your system (probably) works well for you, and I'm happy you have something which serves your needs.
At the moment I'm using a custom app called Drayer Journal which is designed to solve the permanence and search issue with P2P sync, Heirachal organization, and exporting subtrees as shareable documents. Unfortunately it's a KivyMD prototype and I'm not sure I want to rewrite it in something less buggy.
It does seem that for whatever reason, most artistic fields were doing better without present day tech though.
Even if we took this as a valid statement on its face, it's also
- A personal safety tool used by vulnerable people to protect themselves, from joggers to the mentally ill
- A way of checking in on one's family member suffering from illness
- Access to information that is contextually important like specific venue masking guidelines
- A means of spending time with family; as long as work knows they can reach you, you are good.
Etc.
I think it's a good idea to ask not only if we still want to be "blame the tool" people, or "blame the people" people, but also whether we want to open up this general context where we enshroud efforts to project values in a casement that looks like generalized blame of device and person both.
IMO we can do better than methods that turn into "see something, shame something" especially when so many details matter.
I mean, yea it's great you can use the smartphone to do those noble things you listed, but that's not what 99% of the people standing in line, head crooked down, eyes glazed, thumb flying back and forth are doing. They're scrolling insta or snap, or tiktok, chasing that continuous dopamine drip. I remember pre-pandemic walking past a huge line outside of a movie theater, and every single person was scrolling content, eerily silent, not even talking to the people they were with. These people were not checking in on local safety information.
I'm not going to shame them. If that's how you want to live your life, it doesn't affect me. I don't care if the guy in front of me in line is high on drugs or high on instagram as long as 1. I don't smell it and 2. he moves forward along with everyone when the line moves.
Otherwise it appears indistinguishable from shaming them inwardly, which could be even worse than doing it loudly, in person, and giving them a chance to defend themselves.
This is a weird argument to me, since second hand smoke causes cancer. I agree that we're probably more distracted than is good for us, and there are contexts where that's a public health risk (specifically when driving), but until we see evidence that public phone use causes bystanders to get cancer, equating the two seems hyperbolic.
Before covid, I went to a few speed dating events with a "no phone" policy. And no one had any trouble with that. We also already have "no phone" on occasion, like on quiet cars on trains.
So do we need cell phone free spaces enforced by law instead of social politeness? What spaces should be cell phone free.
I fully agree with your smoking analogy. I wonder how long it will be before the majority sees it that way too.
1: Technically speaking I do, but its a smartphone with Ubuntu on it (Meizu sold them years ago). As it is now long out of updates and as society is pushing hard to have certain apps available (banking, authentication, messaging), I will probably have to get an Android soon. I have no intention of changing my behaviour with these devices though.
I got a pacifier with a solid base, clipped off any small pertrusions, sand papered it flat, drilled a small pit and glued a magnet in. Smoothed out the edges, applied a thin layer of epoxy as lacquer and support.
The best part is that I used a strong magnet so that I could hold the phone in my mouth by the pacifier whenever I needed both hands.
Anyway, fashion changed and suddenly my pockets became a little bit too tight, so I stopped using it.
Absolutely yes!
I wrote plenty about it in Digital Vegan but there's only time and space to touch the surface of the psychology and research in a short accessible book.
I'm working on a new study with attachment theory experts looking at the ways we form emotional bonds with digital devices and how they become transitional or proxy objects.
Hey, just about right for this year’s Lent, in which I intend to closely examine my relationship with technology, because I can’t tell where “mommy brain” stops and where a deeper problem with attention and concentration driven by how I’m using the internet begins. I’m kicking it off with Carr’s “The Shallows,” but your book might be a good way to ensure I get through something every day.
Shoshana Zuboff Big Other (surveillance capitalism)
Virginia Eubanks Automating Inequality
Sophie Brickman Baby Unplugged
Cory Doctorow Radicalized
Mike Monteiro Ruined by Design
Nick Srnicek Platform Capitalism
Paul Kingsnorth Life versus the machine
Heather Burns Understanding Privacy
Roger McNamee Zucked: Waking Up to the Facebook Catastrophe
Siva Vaidhyanathan Antisocial Media: How Facebook Disconnects Us
Catherine Price How to Break Up With Your Phone
Thomas Kersting Disconnected: Protect Your Kids Against Device Dependency
Nicholas Kardaras Glow Kids
Zeynep Tufekci Twitter and Tear Gas
Lelia Green Technoculture
Douglas Rushkoff Team Human
Jaron Lanier Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media
Carissa Véliz Privacy is Power: Why You Should Take Back Control
Xiaowei Wang Blockchain Chicken Farm
Jenny Oddell How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy
Wendy Liu Abolish SIlicon Valley
Jonathan Taplin Move Fast and Break Things
Andrew L. Shapiro The Control Revolution
Lawrence Lessig Code and Other Laws of Cyberspace
David Shenk Data Smog
Douglas Rushkoff Cyberia
Paulina Borsook Cyberselfish.
I've seen the effects of too much device access at too young an age on younger relatives, and I really, really don't want that for my kid.
Then I created a special "OS" (in bash/python) just for her - obviously no network but she can start her favourite music my typing "music" and stuff like that.
I think it's the small screens, swiping and infantile apps that bother me. I have no smartphone or tablet, so she doesn't see behaviour to copy. Some of her friends have phones (I am furious at those parents) but we laugh at how they "get stuck on them" and that "phones are for babies". She tells her friend she's a "real hacker" - which I am sure will lead to some fun situations at school at some point.
My theory is that it's about how much of an interest you take.
I forgot to mention Sherry Turkle too. She has some good ideas on technology, attachment and kids.
Other side effects are far, far less relevant...
Give it a decade or so