Good insights. Thinking back, this is the formula that worked well for me in the last 5 years. Lacking no. 2 was the one that brought me problems in the past but I managed to fix that. It was a very expensive learning.

The issue I have now is with no. 3. I just can't be part of the tribe I'm in right now and believe me I tried. I care about my colleagues, even the ones that are harder to work with, but although I like the overall mission of the company, the mediocrity is real and I just can't get on this boat.

I've been told I'm charismatic and this has been an advantage, but I recognize this is not something everyone can just decide to be. Social skills are a long learning process and I often think back at my young days working at the pizza restaurant as a place where I learned the most at this level.

I honestly believe the no. 3 is the harder one to grasp because it's the only one that it's not depending on you: you can work on all the other points (i.e. be a better dev, work on how you accept feedback or how you work on your charisma), but at the end of the day, if you can't get behind the values of the tribe, the only option you have is to fake it. This is what I've been doing.