We've passed on most of the google-pointing technologies in this thread precisely because of that architectural footgun
Instead, we went with Casbin (microsoft research) because it can push to your DB (including multi-tenant-sharing if you scale) and a legit modern policy engine - A(R)BAC, ACL, etc. Definitely warts, but pretty close to what I'd hope architecturally, meaning a clear path to prettier UIs, plugging into automatic SMT solvers/verifiers, etc, and till then, pretty easy from whatever backend lang + SQL DB you use.
Long-term, stuff like row-level security in your SQL / metadata store makes a lot of sense (people pointing that out in the thread below), but RLS is still awkward in practice for even basic enterprise RBAC/ACL policies. Until then, Casbin-style architectures are the equivalent of a flexible external policy decision point with the actual compute still being pushdown to wherever you want, including the DB: win/win.
I wish the VC money went this way instead, but I see why $ goes to simpler "google for everyone else" pitches, so here we are :(