I'm speaking for myself only, etc.
> Does it not nag you to be employed by one of - if not the most - ethically disgusting companies in the world?
I'm sorry - I don't work for a "defense" contractor[1]. That said, a lot of societal problems are pinned on FB. IIRC, YouTube moderators also suffer from PTSD, I suspect the same goes for Twitter, and Vimeo[2] - and I believe more should be done - saying this is a FB-specific problem is just dishonest, but convenient.
Getting rid of Facebook will not fix the deterioration of social fabric and degraded, that is a convenient lie people tell themselves. Go ahead and look at YouTube comments, misinformation, or Twitter threads, and and ragebait purveyed by - lets see - everyone. Society is fucked and cannot be fixed, at best, it can only be mitigated.
This is not to excuse Facebook, but just setting the tone on where we are as a society. The reason it's hard to legislate a fix for this because the required changes are going to affect everyone in ways they don't like, therefore we can't even come to a consensus on what the solution ought be.
Getting to your question, FB is a big company, and there are a lot of orgs that do great work that benefits humanity, those don't get as much media attention. That said - I really was "radicalized" on HN: I am a minority, and for years, I've witnessed the cavalier attitude or outright disdain shown by HN towards the more problematic areas of our industry (racism, sexism, etc). What can I say, the "Fuck you, got mine" attitude is infectious[3].
1. I'm being snarky, but I think writing software to take lives is the most disgusting thing fellow SWE's do.
2. Does Vimeo they even moderate? All the gore/"watch someone die" links I have not visited were exclusively Vimeo
3. It's also the best solution to iterated prisoners dilemma scenario