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If I read a post on my friend’s blog exposing that their occasional texts had genesis in an automation and not genuine interest I would try very hard to not talk to that person

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I trust you don't use a calendar to keep track of birthdays, otherwise people will try very hard not to talk to you.

Implying that forgetting a date and forgetting a person are equivalent.

The system is not solving the "I forgot this person exists" issue. It is solving the "nothing prompts me to contact this person without having reason to" issue.

Or "nothing overcomes issues that say do not contact, you're not worth their time"

When you have ADHD, things often only come to mind via triggers, and many people in the tech community have ADHD.

Huh, fascinating difference between people. Personally, the fact that my friends use a calendar event to remember my birthday and some of them have an earlier event to remember to plan something for me makes me happy. They precommitted to this act of caring and built it into their workflow so it wouldn’t be missed! I love it.

People are so different in our attitudes to life. It reminds me of the Calendly snafu from earlier.

I’d say that the genesis is a genuine interest in keeping in touch, automation is managing the process. I get behind on messages with my closest friends/family, and then I have a large network of professional/semi-personal relationships to maintain.

I empathise why the OP would do this.

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