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I often peek at my wife when she's coming home from work via our car's app. She knows I do this. (When my kids are with me they love watching the car move on the map. I hope she peeks at me when she's with the kids and I have the car.)

What made it funny one time was when I was between jobs, and she went to her gynecologist after work. Even though she told me, I forgot, and the map only showed that there was a divorce lawyer's office in the parking lot. I really needed a hug when she walked in the door.

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> Even though she told me, I forgot, and the map only showed that there was a divorce lawyer's office in the parking lot. I really needed a hug when she walked in the door.

A fine example of why pervasive tracking is terrible for relationships. I'm assuming based on your tone that you were calm and collected and didn't fly off the handle with accusations when she got home. But I think there are many people who would give into their insecurities (we all have them) and create a big mess with this sort of knowledge. The "accidental" nature of it just makes it worse.

I'm getting a new car soon, and I'm weighing losing the utility of the things in the app vs. my desire not to be tracked. It's really annoying that I have to make that trade off.

> A fine example of why pervasive tracking is terrible for relationships.

Seems like an example of a relationship that’s lacking a good connection and understanding, if someone thinks the other is going to swing by to get a divorce. Tracking didn’t cause that, and lack of tracking wouldn’t fix it.

Stanley Kubrick put it very well in Eyes Wide Shut. A person can let his imagination fly so wildly when he is fixated in one issue.

I didn't think she was filling for divorce. I was feeling insecure about being between jobs.

Yeah, it's been very surprising as a Tesla owner to learn that there's no way to opt-out of this tracking in the car. Your location is always relayed to the app, and your only option is to log out of your account in the car, which still relays the data to Tesla for the super paranoid.

Only people with access to your Tesla account can access location information. The information is limited, you just see where the vehicle is at live, not a history of where it has been. You can opt out of people being able to check your location via the app. You can just go to the Safety & Security settings on the display in your car and turn off Mobile Access.

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