The significant disanalogy is the amount of control parents have over their child's character compared to a programmer. Parents can pretty much do their best to raise a child, but the child may still end up screwed up. I wouldn't really put the blame at their feet. If they deliberately raise their child to be a killer, that's obviously another matter. By contrast, an AGI designer is in an unprecedented situation where they essentially have total control over the character of the being they're bringing into existence. If the AGI does bad things, it's very much on the programmer.