I recognized some of the fabric words. Were I not married, I would have recognized far fewer. I couldn't have told you what most of them actually mean, just that they're to do with fabric.
[EDIT] In fact, on reflection, I find it surprising that women (generally) shop for furniture based on anything to do with the kind of fabric on them, or would be particularly likely to be able to tell you what kind of fabric is on their furniture. I've always known women to shop for uphostered furniture the same way guys do, which is by looking at options until they see something that looks OK, then sitting on it to test. Curtains are another story. I'm pretty sure my wife does put in fabric names when searching for curtains, and might be able to name what some of ours are.
Shopping for uphostered furniture based on fabric type seems more like a rich/poor divide than male/female, to me. Like, it doesn't even get interesting until you're way out of most people's price range, does it?
That doesn't stop car people who can only own a single, entry-level car from caring about all sorts of dimensions that don't meaningfully affect the boring commuter experience. And each of those dimensions has vocabulary words associated with it, which adds to the fun. If you feel a connection with a domain, be it furniture or computer hardware, you learn all the words and form lots of impractical opinions (again, because fun). It's not exclusive to rich people.
All the fabric, fashion, and color stuff probably has all sorts of cultural implications. "Seersucker" just "screams" "summer", or something. Stuff like that. It's fun. But you only have space for so much of it in your head, so with all the other categories of things, you just go based on surface-level experience. Maybe there's a correlation between wealth and the number of topics you have lots of highly-specific opinions about? But my guess based on experience is that it's a personality trait independent of wealth.
I'd expect all the interesting choices with names that carry over into other parts of fashion not to enter the picture, with furniture, until you start to head into "designer" territory. The big overstuffed things out on the floor with price tags attached and big "SALE!" signs and such, seem rather same-y.
I can't even say for sure I've ever sat on a chair that wasn't just some undoubtedly-very-cheap weave of polyester or something else along those lines, but that's because my friends and family range (in background and attitudes, if not in income) from the Fussellian low-prole through his Middle. I'm assuming there are interesting fabric choices in the stores (or parts of stores) that no-one I know shops in, but there don't seem to be out in the po' folks' sections, where the majority of people shop. Doubling (or more) the price of a couch to get a kind of fabric worth remembering isn't on the table for most people—except, yes, maybe enthusiasts or people rich enough that that's the only kind of furniture they buy.
Consider a person who don't care at all about action/adventure stuff. They just care about making the nicest home possible. They read books about it, watch TV shows about it, watch movies about it, and remembers those details and forgets about all the actiony nonsense. Why wouldn't they know words of things they will likely never posses themselves? It is the same concept.
> Do you not have curtains or a couch?
And what I'm skeptical of, specifically, is that the average woman has any idea what kind of cloth is on their couch, or shopped by that when they bought it, because it's probably not anything notable. I don't think "having a couch" means someone has the first clue what kind of cloth is on it, including most women. They might know the kind of cloth the hand-made pillows are, or a throw blanket, but not the upholstry, in most cases.
I think knowing what kind of cloth your couch is upholstered with, and shopping based on that, is probably more a rich-people thing than a women thing. Again, with exceptions for people who are just really into upholstry.
Curtains, sure. The idea of connecting cloth knowledge with upholstered furniture ownership just struck me as odd, because, again, I'm quite sure that most people, including women, don't get into that in detail, because it's not that important or interesting in the lowest 3 or 4 price tiers for furniture.
I definitely understand being surprised that men don't shop for curtains by cloth type (and so wondering how one could own curtains without knowing cloth-related terms), but not that we don't shop for furniture that way, because that's just normal for anyone outside, at least, the top 20% of income.
I hardly even think about curtains, couch covers, etc. At most it's briefly, when we're shopping for that stuff. I'm super happy to leave those details up to my wife, who cares about them more than I do.
I mean, this[0] meme pretty much sums it up
[0] https://i.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/001/441/150/c01...
And we mean it. I see only two problems:
1) no extra seating for pals—c'mon, at least add a couple bean bags and a couple folding trays (in fairness, those may be put away off-frame), if you're not even playing local multiplayer or having friends over to watch TV/movies, why even bother with this much?
2) it'll probably turn off any woman who sees it.
So not enough seating and women won't like it, are the only reasons I wouldn't be totally OK living like that if I were single.
[EDIT] I spotted a third problem! There's not a Gamecube or N64 or Dreamcast sitting on the floor halfway between the TV and chair.
I think the main problem is that it looks both cheap and "low". TVs are "low" and having one so prominent makes the room look low-class. The room itself looks like a cheap apartment.
The fix is to buy more stuff for the room—and especially to put on the walls—to compete with the TV so it's less prominent, or to keep things very minimal but replace the TV (too "low") with something else and re-do the entire room (chair included) to fit some minimalist trendy design. Like if this were an ultra-modern concrete room or something traditional-Japanese themed (walls, windows, flooring and all) it'd be Instagram worthy, even if it were just as minimal—but those are expensive looks to attain. No one would be saying the sleek designer room looked unlivable because it didn't have pictures on the walls or curtains or more furniture.
Reminds me of Rusty's apartment in True Detective. His minimalism is (I think it's fair to say) at least in part a philisophical choice, which could look cool or respectable or impressive coupled with surroundings to make it so, but because it's a normal, cheap apartment with normal, cheap stuff (and not much of it), it just looks... well, cheap. That he doesn't care about making it nicer-looking and more in line with impressive takes on minimalism probably says something about his character—a preference for substance over appearance, for one, and maybe some other things.
Or how "minimalism" trends in pop culture are often coupled with a consumerist focus on expensive, nice-looking items that'll still impress and signal certain things about the owner, while the same thing on a small budget usually looks far less impressive (because it's mostly cheap stuff). Tiny house vs. trailer home or RV. All that kind of thing. That the good couldn't have been acquired cheaply is about as important is its practical functionality, to certain buyers.
Nobody wants to look at Wal-Mart minimalism, which is what this room is.
My house was the exact opposite: stuff everywhere. Any bit of empty space will immediately be put to use. And that is a thing my wife had a problem with, instead of all the empty.
I've owned a home for over 15 years, and I still don't have curtains because it is too overwhelming. Current couch is Ikea, so I just wrote down the number, next couch will be leather.
Edit: One thing I know about fabric is that linen is made from flax, in 2016 I took a tour at a revolutionary war house where they used to make linen. I only went in because there was a pokemon in it, but it was still very interesting.
45 years old, and no. Why would I do that? All my furniture and drapes are pretty much IKEA. I have some interest in clothing, but aside from the occasional Hallowe'en death cloak don't know much about fabrics other than cotton/polyester/nylon.
A minute shopping is a minute wasted, in terms of my interests. I don't want to spend any time thinking about it unless I have to, in order to accomplish some other goal. I tend to standardize on colours / outfits / style to make sure I don't spend much mental energy on fashion or shopping, while still not looking like I don't "get" it.
I recognized chenille (but couldn't remember what it meant, outside of knowing it was textile-related), but I'd never heard of damask or jacquard before. I do own my own home, but actually don't have curtains (blinds/shades instead). I do have a couch (three of them!), and these words never came up. I was just given giant books of fabric swatches, and I chose by look and feel. I don't recall any of them having descriptive names with technical terms, just a marketing name and item number.
I know "espadrille" because a man in an Agatha Christie novel was described as wearing them, so I looked it up (this was years ago). If the same book had named the kind of cloth used on a couch, tablecloth or curtain, I definitely would not have been interested enough to look it up -- for all I know there may have actually been such a description in the book!
I would have guessed that "damask" might have something to do with the damasquine steel used in weapons manufacturing.
And, no, I've never shopped for textiles. "Jacquard" is certainly very familiar given its relation to computing--and having lived and worked in Lyon. My parents even worked in textiles growing up, but I was nonetheless clueless.
TIL that I own a few nice Chambray shirts, courtesy of Google ;-)
Ironically, Espadrille is the only word on that shortened list I ever heard of... but I think mostly because in my country its definition was expanded - certainly there were tons of Espadrilles for men. That may or many not be universal.
Literally Everything else on the purple list... no clue.
I do have curtains and a couch. FWIW I am a home owner in my 3rd owned residence (Condo, small house, medium house). I have never ever ever geeked out or cared about their material, by name, so I suppose there's a world still awaiting for me :)
Anyhoo, I do feel that the two lists are not symmetrical. It feels that one is fairly clustered around fashion/style/materials, whereas the other, while still having common threads, has technology, science, physics, video games, and nerdery. But is that exposing simply another kind of bias in me? Because the "male" words are familiar to me, I see more diversity in them than the unfamiliar words? Food for thought, but I still think bushido, shemale and terraflops are different categories regardless of gender :D
Fwiw, my classification:
Aileron - airplanes; howizter, bushido, katana - military; shemale - porn; strafe - FPS/gaming presumably; Yakuza - gangs; boson, milliamp,gauss, piezoelectricity, etc - physics; checksum, teraflop - comsci; parsec... physics, technically, but SciFi, practically :P
vs:
fashion/clothes/hair: peplum, boucle, ruche, chignon, tulle, chenille, voile, bandeau, kohl,espadrille, whipstitch, sateen, jacquard, damask, chambray
Verbena, Fressia - flower
pessary, doula - health
Could be the reason so many guys know it, but it's another term with military connections. I was aware of it from military sci fi before I ever encountered it in a gaming context.
Today though, it's such an inherent concept in video games, I feel it brings it from a abstract concept to a more practical reality.
Couch is couch.
Anyway I have two sisters and remember not understanding how and when did they learn those words.
I do recognize some of those words, but as a non-native English speaker I was surprised about their spelling.
No, never, and never plan on doing it. I currently rent, live alone and don't care. If I ever move in with someone again and that person cares, they will make all the decisions themselves, and if they don't, we'll just default to whatever's already in the apartment or hire interior designer if we'll be renovating.
And that said, I'm still an outlier in male population because I like male fashion, obsess with Rick Owens, Margiela, Alexander McQueen and some local brands, have my nails painted and wear a lot of accessories.
For the life of me (literally) I wouldn't be able to name the fabric.
> Do you not have curtains or a couch?
The house has the same curtains it had when we moved in. They're ugly, and I just ignore them. Except for the front window, where my spouse changed them for some reason.
My old apartment also had the same curtains it always had.
I have 3 couch-ish objects:
- A $100 futon that I bought when I first moved out to use as a combo bed / couch. My spouse also replaced the mattress on there, probably with something cheap off Amazon.
- A very cheap loveseat of unknown origin that a friend gave me.
- An old sleeper couch from my parents' house that they didn't want.
I think Jacquard is the guy who invented the loom that they teach about in every CS 101 class.
But no, I don't know what damask and Chenille are.
I actually love clothes shopping! I just don't think about furniture. It's so heavy and bulky. I love buying dresses but I don't think about fabrics. I know there's cotton, and denim, and fake leather, and then there's fabrics I never think about.
I don't decorate the house, I decorate myself. Sparingly.
Edit: For shoes I have "boots", "sandals", "sneakers", and "heels". I go to the thrift store and see what looks good and fits, and then I buy it. Sometimes I buy new shoes too, but I don't like dress clothes, so I just eyeball it without thinking about names.
- Do you see yourself as a "new" or "recent" woman who's learning about female things now? (E.g. did you know what a pessary was? Did you read women's magazines in the before times?)
- Did your preferred sex (e.g. women for straight males) remain the same? Do you identify as straight or gay (or none of the above?)
It's none of my business, other than it helps me situate you (and maybe inductively other trans women) in these male-female ML things.
I still don't know what a pessary is. I didn't really read women's magazines before I transitioned, and I still don't.
I feel fine being a tomboy with "guy" interests. It's not an end goal of mine to go "stealth" (That is, pass as cis 100% of the time) or fit in to any female-coded social group in particular. Transitioning is something I do for myself, so presenting feminine but still being a little bit "masculine" in my interests and hobbies just doesn't bother me.
I've always been attracted to women, so I went from being a straight guy to being a lesbian. There's a few specific heterosexual scenarios where I can identify with the woman now, but not enough to say I'm attracted to men in general.
> it helps me situate you (and maybe inductively other trans women) in these male-female ML things.
Yeah I'm definitely speaking for myself here. The only things that are likely to be true of all trans women is that they use (or want to use, if they're still in the closet) she/her pronouns, and that they were not assigned female at birth.
Everything else can vary:
- Lots of trans people want to be stealth. It's safer on average, but I live in a queer-friendly town
- Not everyone wants to reclaim "queer" but personally I don't want to type out LGBTQIAA+ every time...
- Some trans people report that their sexuality changes (or they realize they're actually asexual) after they begin transitioning or after they begin hormone therapy. It isn't clear what percent of this is caused by the hormones and what percent is purely psychological.
- Most trans women don't say things like "I used to be a guy". I don't have an internal sense of gender, so I don't feel like the common story of "I was always a woman on the inside" applies to me, even though it applies to many trans women. When I was younger, people assumed I was male and I was fine with it, so I don't feel wrong to say I used to be a boy or used to be a guy. I transitioned when I decided that I didn't need an internal sense of gender - If I wanted to be a woman on the outside, that's all I needed, and maybe for me in particular, I only have an outside.
I'm pretty utility driven when it comes to curtains or couches. I'm just looking for something which does what it is supposed to and is not hideous. How does knowing damask, jacquard, and chenille help with determining if curtains block light and a couch is comfortable when I sit in it?
I've never bought curtains, only blinds.
I recognized espadrilles because they make those for guys, but they're not common.
And yes, lots of guys (even gay) just have zero clue about textiles.
Also a small nitpick, an espadrille is not a woman’s shoe, it’s a style as far as I’m aware. I have a pair I wear in the summer.
To be sure, I recognized most of the fabric words as words (wouldn't have been sure about "sateen" as opposed to "satin"), but they only one I could have defined was "tulle".
And in my part of the world, espadrilles are not infrequently worn by men.
But it's funny how people who are utterly indifferent about fabrics can sometimes hold forth at length about the relative merits of PLA, PETG, ABS, PVA, or TPU ;-)
I think more men would recognize the Damascus steel (apparently named after damask fabric).