Toughness in a material science sense is the ability to absorb energy before failure. This has two major components, yield strength (energy to initiate deformation) and ductility (ability to deform without fracture).
The ductility of steel (and of many other metals) is what drive their use in structural applications, whereas many materials, i.e. ceramics, have higher yield strength but almost no ductility. Even though many glasses are "stronger than steel", if you drop a glass bowl and a steel bowl only one will shatter. If your I-beam shatters you are in trouble.
Steel is interesting in comparison to other metals because iron and carbon are abundant and the iron-carbon system has a lot of interesting features that can increase both strength and ductility.
But there are a lot of metals that are somewhat stiffer and stronger than steel, like chromium, platinum, and tungsten, while still being somewhat plastic. The great advantage that steel has over them is that it's unbelievably cheap. It's even cheaper than brass, bronze, and lead!
Plasticity (ductility and malleability) is important for a couple of reasons. First, as I mentioned above, it greatly increases the fraction of the material's theoretical strength you can get in practice. Second, it allows you to form the material instead of cutting it to shape. That's the property you're using when you wrap a sandwich in aluminum foil or tie a gate shut with baling wire. You can't do that with porcelain foil or porcelain rod. Third, ductile failure happens gradually rather than suddenly, which is important in some cases.
The other really interesting thing about steel is that it's hardenable. This is very significant because cutting and forming hard things is hard. So it's routine to cut or form steel in its soft state to get more or less the shape you want, harden it, and then grind it and maybe lap it to the precise shape you want. Grinding and especially lapping can be very precise and cut very hard materials, but they're very slow processes.
Finally, steel can withstand much higher temperatures than organic materials, or even most other common metals.
These are, I think, the major reason why steel has so extensively displaced what Andrew Carnegie liked to call "inferior materials".
Also, the high modulus is interesting. Some components are stiffness limited such that you couldn't use aluminum or titanium even if you wanted.