Hacker News Reader

I felt the same way, until I found out about /lists (https://news.ycombinator.com/lists) and subsequently /best (https://news.ycombinator.com/best). Best is literally the best part of HN for me as it moves slower and contains the "Highest-voted recent links". Give best a try, and I'm sure you'll feel like you miss less.

/active is the best for this I feel.

I use and highly recommended https://hckrnews.com/ for this very reason. Chronological list of what’s hit the front page, and seems to have a pretty decent threshold