I can attest to this. In my 30’s with kids and suddenly women with well behaved kids are more attractive to me. You can find attraction in qualities as much as looks.
After my first horribly failed marriage (and damaged kids due to wife being a complete failure), something clicked in my head and I finally find personality extremely important.
Not sure if it's an age thing or just a change after trauma, but it's been a very positive change.
Weight is still somewhat important at the extreme, but otherwise it's been a 180* shift - really fascinating.