My firsts lucid OBEs were not even voluntarily produced but "emergent" from taking a random nap.
My firsts lucid OBEs were not even voluntarily produced but "emergent" from taking a random nap.
Luxurious!
No but seriously, a lot of people don't even have access to a quiet and dark bedroom. It was only when I bought my house some years ago that I had that, and it's not even perfect - I prefer to sleep with the window open, frequently there's background noise from the nearby highway (white noise). But depending on wind and atmospheric conditions it can also be deathly silent. Until I start snoring anyway.
When I moved the apartment block was dead silent with no road noise. I couldn’t sleep properly for about a month because It was so quiet. I couldn’t relax and ended up taking sleeping pills a few times just to sleep.
Since moving again I’ve always had background noise. I’m scared to move again to a silent place.
There are all kinds of noise generating apps - if you like traffic/freeway sounds there are lots that provide that kind of noise. The best are ones that have multiple tracks playing at once with samples that start at random places so you don't get a repeating audio pattern. I found with simpler noise generating apps (or devices like from sharper image) that have repeating loops I will eventually detect the loop and then instead of using the noise to help me relax I'm counting the seconds until the loop repeats. Very counter productive!
If is not that bad, it can be used as a trigger for the kind of questions that will raise lucidity: where I am? how did I got here? These logistics questions work because OBEs will always fail to deliver the continuum of the memory back to when it started because they all start somehow in hypnagogia.
...that space is calm for most people?
Being there is usually literally terrifying to me. Like whenever I finally come through to the awake side I'm drenched in sweat and crying on occasion.
Maybe get a sleep study.
It does, however, take ~9.5 hours to get the pillow to behave to tolerance.
As for terrifying? Well, there's always real life to look forward to, and terrifying is an appropriate reaction to that impending doom, but I hope this isn't an everyday for you. You could have a sleep disorder, night terrors, PTSD, neurology problem, etc.
Think about it, can 2 people's dream be synchronized from the perspective of each other? Because that's how a shared OBE feels.
Once you have some of these, you know these aren't dreams.