Of course you are free to make your choices any way you see fit and if you choose work over personal relationships that does not make you a lesser person.
So you can have your pet projects and another person could have their family (or both, or none!) and I think the only thing that should matter during the job interview is what they intend to do during their shifts and whether or not they are capable of doing that to the best of their abilities. Your free time is yours, not your employers and is non of your employers business.