Same date, deaths in above 64 and older range: 621617
(EDIT: numbers are for the USA, but the general proportions seem to apply worldwide)
So
> it's necessary so they don't kill anyone with Covid, and grows up into a disturbed adult, or that an elderly person with several chronic health issues dies a year or so earlier than "expected"?
is pushing the bounds of reality a little when 1/3 of the deaths are in a demographic that is hardly described by what you've written above.
Consequently, I think a closer summary of your position would be that the psychic/emotional harm to people caused by our attempts to stop COVID from overwhelming the health care system outweighs the deaths of at least 200k people who were far from the end of life.
I don't consider that an indefensible position, but it needs to be stated clearly, with numbers so that people can see the numerical weight behind your moral take on this.