No one here is mandating shit, GP asked a friendly question in a most respectful manner, which prompted an informative answer from OP even. If such interaction generates such an allergic reaction in you, the problem is not with the grandparent comment.
I really think this integration predominantly means systemic internalization of racism, with side effect of affirmative actions. When ethnicity is expressed with intent, a distinction is made, and distinction is synonymous to discrimination. Or classification, for that matter.