Quantity of coffee is probably better determined by the weight of dry coffee that went into the beverage than by the volume of the resulting drink. Someone adds more water, someone prefers less, but they both may be on the same amount of coffee.
Everyone's body is indeed different. I switched to decaffeinated tea and coffee exactly a week ago. There wasn't any noticeable difference, maybe my sleep feels a bit different, but that is about it.
I already suspected that I am more attracted to the flavor of tea and coffee than to their actual caffeine content, because I could drink six cups of coffee one day, zero the next day, and feel no withdrawal.