I didn't say I don't present people options. I just said I no longer push them on one.
Yeah this is what I don't agree with. As a leader, you act as a shield to the people that report to you. You may be privy to information or have a better view of the overall big picture. Sometimes there are burdens you don't want to put on the people that report to you. We can only be so transparent a lot of times.
Theres going to be times where you'll need to have them align with overall company goals etc.
What you're describing is just a manager.
If this sort of mentor needs something from a mentee, that's a conflict of interest. (People use "mentor" to describe different relationships though!)