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Let’s be more like bonobos and less like chimps.

I would prefer that, but...

That works if you're a bonobo that is dealing with other bonobos. When you try to be a bonobo when you are in a troop of chimps, you will become the alpha male chimp's concubine.

In other words, its better to be strong and tactical in order to push the values you believe in. Its also why the progressive caucus got screwed with the Build Back Better bill - they trusted the benevolence of their leadership, and then got taken advantage of [1, 2].

[1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=swcMOxEJMV0

[2] https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/news/house/progressive-ca...

I am all for being like the bonobos but you forgot to describe some important details...

Not everyone's interested in becoming swingers.

It’s interesting that humans have decided to allow violence to be acceptable and commonplace, celebrated even, while sex is the thing that is taboo. Seems backwards, especially when you consider consent.

Some people don't consent to infidelity. It's very practical.

People who are shopping around for sex are rarely reliable and committed and you couldn't trust them at their word if they say otherwise.

If it's consented to, it's not infidelity.

The thing you have to consider is genetics (parentage). Most don't men don't want to raise a child (and all the effort involved in that) that is not their own (without consent, outside adoption, etc). It's a very reasonable position and the basis for this arrangement appearing in most religions and legal systems.

Matrilineal societies are a thing.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_matrilineal_or_matrilo...

Their are - but even so, they generally couple up and understand who the father of their children is.

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