So, forgive me for how this sounds, but the general HN user probably needs a reliable as possible internet link.
This is not to mention the security implications of having a non-open source router. Never trust a third party like that. Some even try to get you to use an app.
An actual misconfigured/buggy router is a bigger security concern for me than a potential back door. Also, what makes you think open source software matters if the hardware is closed? Do you have a pine router or something?
There was an article just the other day about how google is sunsetting a mesh router they built. That's what you get if you don't take the frankly small amount of time to wrench control of your hardware from its parent companies. You're worried about security? Bad news, if you're not doing your own updates, your security can and will be sunset.
But I get it, you don't wanna. Not much more to be said than that I suppose.
... Does pine make a router?
There are the other kind of HNer who are that pillar in xkcd Dependency comic, but for the former kind, OpenWRT as it is right now is just waste of their time.
Whatever issues you had are not the common path IMO. I've run openwrt essentially for as long as it's been a thing and the only instability I ever had was due to my ISP. I'm sure if you end up with some esoteric, poorly supported, or flaky hardware things can be different, but this is far from universal!
Maybe the thing that took me the most time was to decide which version to use or whether I should use openwrt vs tomato vs other competitors
Breaking stuff and then fixing it is the fast track for learning
If you're not a smart computer guy then maybe this isnt the forum for you
Yes, I've flashed routers in the past, including the Linksys WRT54G, and in some cases I've even built a dedicated PC to run as a router, back when that was a bit more in vogue.
But is it worth the time to do it yet again? Probably not. I'd rather get an Apple-like router that works perfectly out of the box, with sensible defaults and little configuration necessary, and which is regularly auto-updated with security fixes. That way I can spend my time on new things.
If you want a cheap rec that's easy to get OpenWrt on, get a Netgear R6220 off eBay. I've gotten 3 of them for $20 each or so.
I never felt the 'instability', at least not when I limited myself to the basics a thing like that should do, and not trying to turn it into a server for all sorts of things.
(Edit: Though you can also do that, if you know what you are doing. That's the advantage of things like these!)
Depending on which hardware/SOC you have, DD-Wrt may be a better option.
It's cloud-free, spyware-free, adware-free.
The default configuration works with the same basic configuration any consumer-grade system would require.
Extensive configuration capability is offered through either of two graphical front-ends, the basic Turris, the advanced Luci, or for those who prefer talking in words rather than gestures, a highly capable Linux system residing underneath.
Does not match my experience at all. My router would regularly go offline with the stock firmware which never happened after I flashed OpenWRT.