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Similar experience.

I was raised Christian and very into it (mission trips, Bible study, accountability groups, etc) but abandoned it in my early twenties. I am much more content with life—no more sense of guilt constantly hanging over my head along with an increased sense of control and responsibility. My wife was raised Mormon and also abandoned her faith. Both of our immediate and extended families are still very religions.

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I find it interesting that I grew up in a family which was not exactly religious (no church-going, etc), but incredibly moral in some it’s own way (Russian family based in Lithuania, military grandparents). But basically I had to let go of moral-ethical shame (guilt) to make my life easier too.

Not going to go into the depth of what these morals were, but in essence:

In some way I think it could be similar to having strict parents who had spent their whole life trying to make their children successful but it takes a lot of courage for that child to start living the life they way they want and not the life their parents have guilt-tripped them to live.

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