Fair enough. Though you didn't mention the pub, which is what the parent comment started with?
OOC roughly whereabouts do you live?
OOC roughly whereabouts do you live?
I don't really want to reveal much more hence the throwaway. But honestly I think, you get what you put in. If you want something, assume other people want that thing too, and go from there.
Re. the rest though, maybe it's a "you get what you put in" thing to an extent, I think somewhat that's just how outgoing someone is (which I don't think is the same as how much they value/need connection). But I think a lot of this is very cultural too.