Most people would stare at an IDE and browser many hours and not at the DE control's panel or File Manager, and IMO this core apps should have had the UI fixed years ago and not have stuff still changed at each updated.
I don't think elementaryOS's visuals have changed all that much? Certainly nothing like macOS, which has gone from Mavericks → Yosemite/Catalina → Big Sur in the same time frame.
But perhaps it's okay for this one distro to have an obsession with visual design? Maybe your anger should be at the distros that do all the things you want but are too ugly to use?
>Maybe your anger should
What wording in my comment can be interpreted as anger ? I did not intended that so I would like to understand and express myself better next time.
The linux desktop is a house on fire, and elementaryos is standing in the living room holding up paint to a smoldering wall.