I'm not sure I follow the thread on how plenty of folks that are vaccinated have died (from being exposed to COVID-19, likely from those unvaccinated) means that the vaccine is not safe. The article you linked says those unvaccinated are 40x more likely to die (although it might be more like 14x with more recent data). Similarly, unvaccinated are more likely to spread COVID-19.
Unvaccinated are more likely to contract the virus from a family member. [0]
> According to the analysis, 25 percent of vaccinated contacts exposed to a household member with an infection contracted one themselves.
> In contrast, 38 percent of unvaccinated contacts got an infection.
> The study results suggest that because the viral load of vaccinated people drops off more quickly, their infection may be infectious for a shorter time than for unvaccinated people.
https://www.healthline.com/health-news/vaccinated-people-can...