Teenagers? How many teenage women do you know of that are fucking 30+ year old men.
I would say up until adult independence people are far more likely to date someone their own age due to large social interactions at school.
I also think it’s hardly traumatic to not get sex as a teenager
These negative emotions persist into your college years, 20s, and even longer and sabotage your success with women and domestic life not to mention work and all areas of your life. Even when something good happens your are inclined not to believe it because of what you have internally and the resulting effect is self-reinforcing.
The median teen is interested in teens.
I'm not saying that those boys are in competition with 30 year old men, but that those same boys are going to be in a materially better situation when they are 30 years old -- yet they might not be able to take advantage of it because they will still have that deprived and resentful little boy inside.
Not many teenage women go for 30+ year old men. But many women do prefer men who are sufficiently older than them that the combined effect for young guys is noticeable.
Anecdotally as someone who is now 46, I feel like the attention from much younger women has kept increasing. Additionally the attention has shifted. If a 20-something woman shows interest in me it's almost always sexual rather than a woman looking for a relationship. My dating life is so much easier today than it was when I was 18-20. Heck, it's still easier to find dates today than it was in my 30's.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reviving_Ophelia
in which young people experience "narcissistic injury" except it is the boy version instead of the girl version.
This sounds to me like people who tell people with clinical depression to "just cheer up, it worked for me!"
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