For Metamask alternatives, Rabby
https://rabby.io/ (MIT-licensed) (it routes all queries through its own RPCs atm) and Frame
https://frame.sh/ (GPLv3) are the best desktop alternatives I've tried. The latter is my preferred client and IMO is a strict upgrade from Metamask. It's also getting a $7/$1 match on Gitcoin Grants GR12 right now if anyone wants to contribute in the next week:
https://gitcoin.co/grants/1143/frameThere are many, many WalletConnect https://walletconnect.com/ compatible wallets that can be used with most dapps as well. There are close to 100 of these: https://walletconnect.com/registry/wallets
As for RPCs, here's a list for you: https://github.com/arddluma/awesome-list-rpc-nodes-providers
If you want to run you're own RPC node, it's not so hard as there are docker and docker-compose images that will let you get geth (or nethermind, or erigon) that will let you spin up an RPC pretty trivially.
The more important thing for decentralization IMO, is that you can reasonably switch, even if most people don't. Think about how this plays out in the browser or email markets and compare it to how much of a difference that is to completely locked in services like Facebook.