Ex-YC startup employee: Most of my equity was in the form of refreshers
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But what's worse, like casinos, the whole system can be tuned to feel like "we are so close to winning". Slot machines are designed to make it look like you are "so close" to winning
Do we really think the dark patterns employed by social networks are confined to the UI
This is just the harsh reality of venture backed startups.
Not every every startup employee has FAANG as an alternative.
For example, the 3rd party does not loan the the funds to exercise, but directly pays the cost. The 3rd party would then own the stock, but pay the engineer a cut if they are in the money
That wouldn't work. "Paying the cost" would immediately result in taxable income to the employee, instead of realizing the income a few years down the line when the debt is canceled.
There's no free lunch here. The 3rd party lost money too, because they couldn't collect the debt. If the 3rd party wanted to fully protect the employee, they could have sent an additional payment to cover the taxes. But that just means the 3rd party suffers a greater loss.
not to be combative, but why?
I'm not talking about a free lunch.
The options owner sells/trades the options for a future profit share. They don't make any income in this transaction (or receive any loan).
The 3rd party holds the shares from the exercised options. If they sell the shares for a profit, both the 3rd and engineer see income and pay taxes at this time.
If the shares are a loss, 3rd party has a loss and engineer sees nothing.
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Alternatively, the 3rd party and engineer make an s-corp and the 3rd party provides capital. S-corp loans the engineer cash and engineer sells shares to the S-corp. If the the shares sell below cost, the losses pass though to the engineer they can deduct the losses against the loan forgiveness
Also, private companies typically restrict an employee from transferring their stock. That's why employees are stuck waiting on an IPO, acquisition, etc. in the first place.