Importantly, gravitational waves are not waves of Newtonian gravity. Gravitational waves do not "push and pull" along the direction of propagation. They stretch and compress space along axes perpendicular to the direction of propagation.
> E.g., if the moon suddenly lurched towards the Earth, we'd perceive an increase in gravity between the two. But that would be a semi-permanent change in the strength of that attraction between the two objects; not what I'd think of as a wave-like fluctuation.
Indeed, gravitational waves do not work this way.
Unfortunately it is hard to explain gravitational waves without significant math.
In fairness, even Einstein himself waffled over whether gravitational waves would be a real effect predicted by the theory. Then it took nearly a century to detect them experimentally, and there were plenty of doubters along the way.
The results one gets from intuition are generally incorrect in important ways. Here's a derivation of a wave equation from Einstein's field equations:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Linearized_gravity
A more helpful introduction for a layperson might be the paper titled "Gravitational Waves on the back of an envelope":
https://aapt.scitation.org/doi/10.1119/1.13627
But, infuriatingly, that paper does not seem to be open-access. Here's someone's scanned copy:
https://www.ru.ac.za/media/rhodesuniversity/content/mathemat...