>No, sometimes I'm the pedestrian.
Yes, and sometimes I'm the driver. I'm talking about those other times, and the "you" was used in the general sense.
I guess we have a significant philosophical difference about how we see this problem. I approach it in much the same way as a woman would deal with the threat of being raped - sure, one should always take measures to watch out for oneself, but at no point can it be reasonably cast as "taking responsibility", because the responsibility always rests with the guilty party, the attacker (or the inattentive driver whose negligence becomes criminal if someone's hurt).
It's not good enough to say "here are some rape whistles, purrsonal responsibility gals". And it's not good enough to say "shit happens, drivers sometimes don't care, wear some reflective vests, maybe put on a blinking light and a little spinning propeller on your hat to be more noticeable". No. Instead, we should (and some of us do) demand actual accountability for drivers who kill pedestrians through inattention. We don't have that in North America, and as a direct consequence a lot more people die on our streets, and blinking lights or reflective vests don't have squat to do with that.
And we do insist on proper lighting of designated pedestrian crossings, at the very least. Pretty sure walking + more street lights is far more environmentally friendly than driving + no street lights at all.
The responsibility lies squarely with the driver. Starts with the driver, stops with the driver. Lack of proper lighting can be a contributing factor, but it's the driver's responsibility to account for that. And all this muddying the waters, with this "yeah but was your hat blinking", is unhelpful.