1. speciation (as I understand it) has a clear definition: if two populations can mate, then they're the same species. I don't think preferences come into this - for lots of reasons (the vast number of possible interactions between populations, consent isn't required to produce offspring, etc). Saying "I don't think these people would fancy each other" isn't enough to define a new species.
2. the clear differences between specimens recovered does not reflect any clear difference between populations over time. The population of homo-ish living beings over the last 100,000 years is enormous, and we've recovered a tiny, miniscule, fraction of that. Classifying specimens is fine, but we shouldn't make the mistake of thinking that those specimens represent actual populations of humans. The sample size is too small to draw any meaningful conclusions.
I think the effort to minimise the differences between early humans is admirable, and should be continued. We have a tiny, farcically small sample size of evidence to base any conjectures about early humans on. Being inclusive about Homo Sapiens because it stops nazis being dicks about race is a good thing.