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I find calendly depersonalizing and extremely insulting. I.e. the shift of power when someone says "Hey, let's find a time to chat" and the answer is "Here is my calendly link, good luck". I usually break off the conversation there.

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You're the second person I've heard say this lately. To me, using Calendly feels like demurring to the reality that you have times that work for you, these are the times that work for me, my respect for you is so strong: pick any one of them, and I'll be there. If anything, the posturing seems submissive.

Nope, because if you are a heavy calendar user there are tons of things that could be trivially shuffled. A calendly link is “I will fit you in only if it’s extremely convenient for me”.

“Here’s the link to my calendly. If you don’t see anything that works in the next week or so, just send me over a few times that would work for you & I can reshuffle things to make one of them work.”

Exactly. From my experience Calendly works 99% of time, and remaining 1% is where it is better to handle it personally than through PA.

I am slightly confused, why is saving time for both parties considered insulting?

my take from parents post is that he finds "the shift in power" insulting.

while i agree that saving time is a worthwhile goal, i can sympathise with the unhappiness over beeing deferred to an (online) form for stuff that could be tackeld here and now.

This unhappiness seems to me why it's so important Calendly exists: if it's not important enough to merit a visit to an online form, it's sure as heck not important enough to merit interrupting my flow.

If someone says "Hey, let's find a time to chat", would you refer this person to your PA to schedule a call? I hope not, and just like normal people you would look at your calendar and find time slot right away. This is not a use case for Calendly. It is good for asynchronous conversations.

Breaking the conversation at the point, where you are being offered to pick a convenient time looks like a good question for AITA on Reddit.

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