“jobs”, “good food”, “nightlife”, “dating” and “social opportunities” are all things i hear. the last two are a direct result of density. the first 3 are only possible as indirect results.
anecdotally, the price per sqft of townhomes exceeds that of detached homes in several Seattle neighborhoods. several confounding factors, including the year of the building, but in general that suggests a preference opposite to what you claim. or at least, that, in the face of constricted supply we can’t really tell where the preferences truly lie.
Anecdotally, in Australia, post COVID both rent and real estate in regional areas have gone up dramatically - much more than in cities - rapidly pricing locals out and forcing them to move elsewhere and sometimes find temporary accommodation. Now that WFH is more normalised and either want a quiter lifestyle or straight up can't afford houses in major cities, so they are moving to smaller towns instead.
My own preferences are fairly different but I can't argue with data.
But if you have to decide between an hour commute and living vertically plenty of people would choose to live vertically.
And eventually those people visit friends or see pictures on social media of people similar to them with large back yards, land and big kitchens - and say, shit, maybe we should look into this.
As it happens, just possibly a black swan pandemic event keeps those folks indoors with their kids and dogs, with their nonplussed neighbors, children running around behind Zoom conference calls, and pictures on social media of people with houses and backyards causing massive envy...
And welcome to today.
That's the housing situation in the suburbs and exoburbs. This is BEFORE even even talk about the insanely low interest rates on offer during this time.
It's everyone else's vertically built accommodations that attract the hatred.
And the experience of high rise social housing from the 60's and 70's shows that that tower blocs do not solve housing problems.