It's effectively impossible to get someone with an IQ of 130 to have empathy for someone with an IQ of 95. They just need to work harder, they just need to have better teachers, they just need to stop watching so much television, they just need to get better nutrition, ad nauseum.
Imagine the ego crush that would occur if a 130 IQ true-believer in human equality is faced with the prospect that their intellectual success is due to winning a genetic lottery, not due to their hard work and proper life choices.
Of course they're going to deny the reality of hardwired cognitive horsepower.
To do otherwise is to deny how much better they are than you.
That is when multiplication tables are actually taught. Multiplication itself starts to be taught before, but 4th grade is when the full tables are expected to be learned.
So, you have met kids that struggle to learn multiplication tables when they are first introduced to them. Which is actually fine, it is ok to struggle at first before getting it.