> My neighbor has to pay it too, and it's my neighbor that I'm bidding against for assets.No, you're not. You're bidding against the government and all of the contractors the government hires to do things. And the government can print money; you can't.
> The world is full of zero (or negative) sum games that can be overcome through cooperation.
Yes, and one of them is called "special interest politics". The way to overcome that through cooperation is for people to cooperatively agree to not give governments so much power.
> my parents keep giving money to their church. I grew up there, I've seen what their charitable efforts look like. That's why I so strongly prefer programs like food stamps.
So basically, you don't think private charities, or at least churches, or at least churches like the one you grew up in, do a good job of helping people, based on your personal experience. Fair enough.
Next question: do you have personal experience with food stamp programs?
> I already do -- but statistics are a thing, I know that I'm atypical.
I'm not so sure, but let's assume for the sake of argument that you are. Then you have two choices:
(1) Since our country is a democracy, and since the majority of people don't actually want to help others (according to your hypothesis that we've accepted for the sake of argument), then you (and my wife and I, since we are atypical the same way you are) are outvoted. If the majority doesn't actually want to help people, their will should prevail and the government should stop doing it.
(2) If you want to argue that helping people is a good thing even if the majority doesn't want to do it, then you're admitting that you're willing to impose the will of a minority on the majority in a supposedly democratic country. In other words, you're basically saying that your will should prevail, on no other grounds than your personal opinion that helping people is a good thing.
Which do you pick?