That's not at all what I'm seeing. Can you be specific as to what chips you are looking at and what benchmark you are using to draw this conclusion?
I'll go first.
Personally when talking about memory latency, I want to measure time to main memory, without TLB thrashing. Not that TLB latency isn't interesting, but it should be separately quantified.
I've written a few microbenchmarks in this area, but I get very similar numbers to the Anandtech R per RV prange. Which puts the latency to main memory at around 35ns looking like it might flatten out at 40ns. Yes, full TLB thrashing is up at 110ns or so, but that's not a usual use case. If it is, at least under linux, you can switch to 1GB pages if that's important to you.
R per RV prange numbers on the Ryzen 9 5950x is 65ns or so.
So sure the TLB worst case is higher latency on the M1, but then you have to figure out how big the TLB is, and how often that's an issue if you want to know the real world performance impact.
The i9-12900K with DDR5 gets 30ns on the R per RV prange, and 92ns on full random (tlb thrashing).
Even assuming the worst case TLB behavior the m1 max is 111ns and the 5950x is 79ns or 1.4x higher. On the Intel side is 111ns vs 92n, 1.2x higher.
Finding it hard to find any numbers that make the M1X look like 3x higher memory latency.