I appreciate your sharing your personal experience, and counterintuitive points are always welcome - but please don't point the threads flameward like this:
> So any [...] as some sort of [sarcastic overstatement] is really just idealized bullshit.
You made the pH of this discussion noticeably more acidic with this swipe, and the parent did not deserve it. It's not hard to make comments in a swipe-free way—for example https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=29105572 is making a similar point to yours in a conversational style, as opposed to a cross-examining one. That's what we're going for here.