I'm sorry you're in a shitty situation, but it's unfair to blame GP's perfectly reasonable ritual for it. It's your narcolepsy that makes your life horrible, not their ritual, and it's quite unfortunate.
The usual advice is to find a different job with actually flexible scheduling or night shifts, for good reason.
Our fixation on “normal” makes people resist getting help that would make their lives easier and possibly make it easier for them to be “out”.
You have no idea what your coworkers are struggling with. I found out one had stage 4 cancer by asking why it was taking him so long to fix a problem. I’ve had exactly one coworker in >20 years who was open about being on the autism spectrum, and people were weird about it.
Nobody wants to be defined by these things so they don’t bring them up.
You don’t need “in general the reactions” to be positive, you need 100% of your bosses and peers to have a positive reaction, and you need to be able to predict it ahead of time because you can’t but that cork back in the bottle. Developer communities can be small. That information could affect future employment opportunities as well.
If you read the article, it advocates asynchronous conversation, and 'micro' updates.
In other words rather than forcing people to update at a specific time, that whilst convenient for you, is not convenient for all we should consider allowing people to do what they need to do and empower them to respond appropriately.
This is why OP mentioned that _your_ daily ritual is hurting them, because you are _forcing_ them to adhere to what works for you at _their_ expense.
It also goes both ways, but we cannot ask one to always considers us, and allow their needs to go unattended because it doesn't fit our narrative.
Technically true, but it's not like the "ritual" is some weird obscure requirement. Showing up on time is pretty much a default requirement of society. At least they're in a field where being slightly late results in embarrassment instead of firing.