It's not that money from government is less worthy. It's that money from government came from my wallet, thus I am entitled to an opinion. If you didn't take my money, I would have no interest in sharing my opinion with how one ought to spend it.
But that doesn't really have anything to do with whether or not your attitude is actually constructive. You seem to be stuck in the 80s era of Reaganomics/welfare queens thinking, which has since proven to be incredibly ineffectual, destructive, and misery-causing.
Did it though? Government spending != spending your wallet money. Because money is fungible, I can easily make the case that all of your tax dollars went to whatever you value in government, and that we borrowed the rest of the dollars to pay for these beneifts.
And yes, because it's money from my pocket (as I explained), if someone asked me directly, I would have opinions on how it ought to be spent.