HN can live without you.
FB, Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, LinkedIn, etc. etc. cannot survive without trying to actively engage you. They are working tirelessly to find ways to rope you back in.
They cannot live without you.
The large scale social interaction is courtesy of the internet not from Facebook.
For example websites like Reddit, HN, Twitter, TikTok etc are the ones that facilite interaction with large, broad groups of people whereas the majority of Facebook users are just interacting with their small social circle.
I’m as you say, but my FB friends list have the following friend counts: 432, 139, hidden, 176, 1213, 103, hidden, 510, 179, 277, 217, 262, 233, it’s a cat, 320, 296, 317, hidden, 985, 398, hidden, hidden, 489, 995, hidden, hidden, 434, 167, hidden, 1080, 1297, hidden.
And several of those friends are in FB groups which have leaked onto my feed as a result of my friends interacting with those groups.
But that's completely different from say Reddit where you would be exposed to hundreds of thousands of different people over the lifetime of using the site.
> the majority of Facebook users are just interacting with their small social circle
That describes me and my Facebook experience is comparatively pleasant. But I don’t know how typical it actually is, most of the angst on there seems to come from people sharing meme page posts, being members of groups that spread misinformation… certainly that describes how a number of my relatives experience Facebook. I don’t think the social circle is that small for many users.
This is something I’ve said, though I doubt I’m the only one. One particular problem is the availability heuristic goes very wildly off-course when there’s an internet bandwagon.
It's like being at a professional work event and truly shocked that everyone is well behaved.
What about email?
I suppose the ultimate goal is compulsory participation, for more or less overt values of "compulsory."
It is ridiculous to imply that it's somehow unique or exclusive to Facebook.
It exists on all of the social media platforms, across the web and in the real world. It is more a byproduct of anonymous interaction than something Facebook is specifically doing.