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Funny enough, my anecdata has been the inverse. Thats is being a software engineer has been sufficient evidence for people to walk away without even getting to know me. Which is definitely interesting because I've had people say "I cant believe you're an engineer, you're nothing like the other engineers I know" outside my work context.

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Wow - that is still happening? The initial interest followed by that sudden glazed disinterest as soon as they find out your job. Or is it location based where they have formed a stereotype from previous encounters? I had thought a well paying job would be a good start to a relationship (enough money does prevent a lot of problems). Personally I don’t like judgmental people (I’m meta-judgemental) so it usually has been no great issue to be ignored.

Happened to me when I was in college, ~a decade ago. As soon as the major was known, disinterest. Was judged by the cover.

People still even assume that I must wear contacts, because I guess nerd == glasses, and they don't see glasses, ergo contacts? Like, nope… I just don't require those.

Not dating since a few years, but living near a tech hub, the 20-30 year old population was 1.4:1 men to women. You could imagine it was tough, but most single men in that age bracket were stereotypical socially unaware software engineers. Just don't talk anything nerdy and you're golden.

"I can't believe you work at BigTech!"

I don't think that's changed. +30yo is a different subject, though, most stereotypes are ironed out by then.

Are you me? Once I couldn't convince a girl that I'm a nerd.

A colleague of mine dated a really hot girl from Tinder and I asked him if he told her that he's a software engineer.

- Not yet, came the answer :)

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