Just turn off self view. It's distracting and weird to see yourself in a meeting.
Idk why it works but I find it smoothing and allows me to control how I am being seen. Just my personal experience.
Doesn't need to be a constant thing, but more like glancing in the rear view mirror while driving. It's there when you need it, also there when you just want to check, but not going to keep you from the task at hand.
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/rearview-handy-mirror-camera/i...