The little rhetorical trick they use, which I understand you are baiting here, is to say that they are simply so many different isolated individuals who are "concerned" or "asking questions," and the "other side" is some monolithic gender-queer gestapo of sorts that stifles and harasses these poor individuals for no reason.
Putting aside the bad faith at display here (which has very much a political and financial paper trail if you care to look), I just think you can simply look at the literal body count of either side and come to some straightforward moral conclusions.