Rise in single people, who earn less, worries researchers
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They speak of advantages? At 50% failure rate in the US, with seemingly three disadvantages for every advantage, only the insane need apply.
Welcome to America.
* Student loans might almost be worse. You can dissolve a marriage.
https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/marriage-divorce.htm
Even that stat is a bit misleading, since first marriages have been almost twice a likely to last as subsequent marriages.
And even that is still misleading about marriage odds. Low income, teen or near teen women have a much higher rate of divorce than the rest of the population.
https://www.ncsl.org/research/human-services/common-law-marr...
And divorce is not some random outcome with a fixed distribution. It is a specific outcome that involves you and another person. You can make decisions that control your future. You aren't flipping a coin.
That means a half of it is beyond my control. I can try to be a great partner. And I can find someone who seems like they would be a reliable partner. But no one can perfectly predict other people; sometimes people change. And if my partner happens to meet someone more attractive and decides to upgrade... there is not much I can do about it. I have seen people who seemed like happy couples, then one of them met someone else and decided they no longer felt happy in the existing relationship.
> You pay child support if you are married too, it just is called "parenthood" rather than child support. [...] And again, you pay alimony if you are married too. It is just called "supporting my stay-at-home spouse".
You are right that a married man contributes financially to his family. But he is also involved in the decisions. At the very least, after the children grow up, he can encourage his wife to take a part-time job again, and maybe a full-time job later. If instead, depending on the specific laws at given state, he is legally required to pay his ex-wife indefinitely, she has no reason to change the situation.
Also, it is cheaper to live together, and more expensive to live apart. Two houses are usually more expensive than one, even if they are small ones. You can save a lot of money by cooking together, sharing household appliances, maybe sharing a car, etc. So the divorce naturally increases the total costs of living of the people involved. Paying half of the increased costs is more expensive than paying half of the original costs.
Then there is also the fact that in marriage the man gets something in return. Like, he brings home the salary, but his wife cooks for them both. After divorce, he keeps paying, but now he is getting nothing in return.
tl;dr - divorce is more expensive than marriage, and it is partially out of your control whether it happens
> You are right that a married man contributes financially to his family.
I very deliberately left gender out of my post. I don't think it makes sense to bring it back in. A of the rest of your post is gender stereotypes and an unfortunately transactional view of marriages. This just reads as tremendously cynical and bounded view of what marriage actually is and doesn't reflect my experience as a married person whatsoever. In my marriage I want to give to my spouse because it makes me feel good to share love with my spouse. Not for any transactional reason. Not because I expect something in return. But because I love them.
Feel free to choose not to get married. It isn't for everybody. But I think you'll be a happier person by reorienting your view of the world here.
Now I wasn't opposed to getting married or having kids. I thought once the greatest generation retired this process would end. Guess I was wrong.
Kind of a paternal boss who thought regardless of your job performance you only needed more money when you had to support a wife and family.
>The growth in unpartnered adults has been sharper among men than women. In 1990, men and women ages 25 to 54 were equally likely to be unpartnered (29% of each group). By 2019, 39% of men were unpartnered, compared with 36% of women.
I'm really curious as to what's going on here. Do differing levels of partnering by same-sex couples account for this? Or more cheating by men? I assume there are more women than men in that age group, so I'd expect the opposite trend if anything.
1: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2021/10/05/rising-...
The number of unmarried men in this age range may well be higher than the number of unmarried women if a sufficient fraction of women age 25-54 are married to men under 25 or (which is more likely) over 54.
[1] https://www.brookings.edu/research/weight-and-social-mobilit...